AC 10490 - being a worthy disciple

AC 10490 [4, 7]
He who does not know that by
"brethren," "companions," "neighbors,"
and many other names of relationship
are signified the goods and truths of the church and of heaven;
and their opposites, which are evils and falsities;
cannot know what is involved
in many other passages in the Word
where these names occur, as in the following:

Think not that I am come to send peace on the earth;
I am not come to send peace, but a sword.
For I am come to set a man at variance against his father,
and the daughter against her mother,
and the daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law;
and a man's foes shall be those of his own household.
Whosoever loves father or mother more than Me
is not worthy of Me;
and whosoever loves son or daughter more than Me
is not worthy of Me;
and whosoever does not take up his cross and follow after Me,
is not worthy of Me.
(Matthew 10:34-38);

spiritual combats are here treated of,
which are temptations to be undergone
by those who are to be regenerated,
thus the contentions arising in a person
between the evils and falsities which are with him from hell,
and the goods and truths which are with him from the Lord.
Because these combats are here described it is said,
"whosoever does not take up his cross, and follow after Me,
is not worthy of Me;"
by the "cross" being meant the state of man when in temptations.
He who does not know that such things are signified by
"man" and "father," by "daughter" and "mother,"
by "daughter-in-law" and "mother- in-law,"
must believe that the Lord came into the world
in order to take away peace in homes and families,
and introduce dissension;
and yet He came to give peace and to take away dissensions,
according to His own words in John 14:27
Peace I leave with you;
My peace I give to you;
not as the world gives do I give to you.
Do not let your heart be troubled,
nor let it be fearful,
and elsewhere.

It is evident that things belonging to a person,
which are evils and falsities in their order,
are meant by these names,
for it is also said that he must hate his own soul,
and that he must renounce all that he has,
that is, the things that belong to him.
A state of temptation, that is, of spiritual combat,
is also here described, for it is said,
"whosoever does not bear his cross,
and come after Me, cannot be My disciple."
To be a disciple of the Lord 
is to be led by Him and not by self,
thus by the goods and truths which are from the Lord,
and not by the evils and falsities which are from man.