HH 369 - Mutually and Reciprocally

HH 369

Everyone, whether man or woman,
possesses understanding and will;
but with the man the understanding predominates,
and with the woman the will predominates,
and the character is determined by
that which predominates.
Yet in heavenly marriages there is no predominance;
for the will of the wife is also the husband's will,
and the understanding of the husband
is also the wife's understanding,
since each loves to will and to think like the other,
that is mutually and reciprocally.
Thus are they conjoined into one.
This conjunction is actual conjunction,
for the will of the wife
enters into the understanding of the husband,
and the understanding of the husband
into the will of the wife,
and this especially
when they look into one another's faces;
for, as has been repeatedly said above,
there is in the heavens a sharing
of thoughts and affections,
more especially with husband and wife,
because they reciprocally love each other.
This makes clear what the conjunction of minds is
that makes marriage
and produces marriage love in the heavens,
namely, that one wishes what is his own
to be the others,
and this reciprocally.