CL 49, 50 - The Externals and Internals of Marriage

CL 49

. . . marriages entered into in the world
are for the most part external marriages,
and not at the same time internal,
even though it is the internal union or union of souls
that makes a real marriage.
And that internal union is not discernible
until a person has put off his external character
and taken on his internal character,
which happens after death.

CL 50

Consequently, no one in the spiritual world
can stay anywhere but in his own house,
which is provided and appointed for him
according to the nature of his love.
If he stays anywhere else,
his chest labors and he has difficulty breathing.
By the same token,
two people cannot live together in the same house
unless they are likenesses of each other.
And they cannot live together at all as married partners
unless their feelings for each other are mutual.
If these feelings of attraction are external
and not at the same time internal,
the very house or place separates them,
repels them and drives them away.