AC 2727,2728,2731,2738 - conjugial or marriage love is completely mutual and reciprocal

AC 2727
What genuine conjugial love is, and where its origin,
few at this day know, for the reason that few are in it.

AC 2728
Conjugial love takes its origin
from the Divine marriage of good and truth,
and thus from the Lord Himself.

AC 2731
From those most ancient people it has been heard
that conjugial love is of such a nature
as to desire to be altogether the other's, and this reciprocally;
and that when this is experienced mutually and reciprocally
they are in heavenly happiness:
also, that the conjunction of minds is of such a nature
that this mutuality and reciprocity is in everything of their life,
that is, in everything of their affection,
and in everything of their thought.
On this account it has been instituted by the Lord
that wives should be affections of good which are of the will,
and husbands thoughts of truth which are of the understanding;
and that from this there should be a marriage
such as there is between the will and the understanding,
and between all things thereof
with one who is in the good of truth and the truth of good.

AC 2738
Mutual love, such as there is in heaven,
is not like conjugial love.
Conjugial love consists in desiring to be in the other's life as a one;
but mutual love consists in wishing better to another than to one's self . . ..