AC 10171 & 10173 - love truly conjugial

AC 10171
No one can know what love truly conjugial is,
and what is the nature of its delight,
except one who is in the good of love
and in the truths of faith from the Lord;
because, as has been said,
love truly conjugial is from heaven,
and is from the marriage of good and truth there.

AC 10173
That which is done from love truly conjugial
is done from freedom on both sides,
because all freedom is from love,
and both have freedom
when one loves that which the other thinks and that which the other wills.
From this it is that the wish to command in marriages destroys genuine love,
for it takes away its freedom, thus also its delight.
The delight of commanding, which follows in its place,
brings forth disagreements, and sets the minds at enmity,
and causes evils to take root
according to the nature of the domination on the one side,
and the nature of the servitude on the other.